Thursday, August 14, 2008

I love you Mason

Mason has grown so much I cant believe next month we have his 4 month checkup. Things have definitely gotten easier but i do wish i had Raul around to help me. I love spending time with Mason he just makes me laugh sometimes. I love the way he coos and when he gives that cute little smile of his. He stays up more now and always looking around. We went to the grocery store and he was up the whole time i was in there. I feel like i can never put him down. Last night we used cloth dipes and they held up really well. Im so excited to see him achieve his milestones but i also feel like he is growing up so fast it makes me sad.

Sunday, August 10, 2008

My weekend

So I had pretty good weekend. On friday there was a ladies night at the Tropics for all the military wives. They had a fashion show, and people from Mary kay and Arbone. The also has students from Paul Mitchell doing hair makeup and doing manicures. There were appetizers and wine as well. They provided free child care so i took advantage of that. It was very hard to leave Mason i teared up and was worried all night. I kept checking my phone to see if they had about attachment to my N/e it was a lot of fun to hang out with other ladies.

On Saturday I took to friends to the light house. They are somewhat new to the island and i love sharing what I have gotten to see around here. Mason got to go with us and he slept all the ay to the top and all the way to the bottom. There was a good weather too it was not to sunny and there as a breeze so we did not get to hot. Im glad the sun was not to strong since i did have Mason with me. We all had a great time.

Thursday, August 7, 2008

Baby Borrowers

So this show ended yesterday I believe for those of you who did not wacth it heres what it was about:

This was an experiment where five teenage couples where given the opportunity to care for babys for three days then move on to caring a toddler, pre teen, teen and the elderly. Most of these couple wanted to have kids and this show was to let them see that parent hood is not all fun and games. This tackled an epidemic we are having on teen pregnancies. The couples where given their own house and one of them had to go to work while the other one stayed home. They basically had to live the reality of being a parent. You got to see is fast forward the different things parents have to tackle at the different age levels. At the end of the show all the couples did not want to have children anytime soon and all had ended their relationships.

So it was somewhat hard to watch this show and seeing these kids wanting to have kids of their own and the reality that this happens everyday. Teen pregnancy rates had bee going down but in the last year they have increased 42 out of 1000. I hope young people where able to see this show and get something out it like wise I hope the show was able to send the message across to our teenagers. In the reunion show they had the girls who apparently made a "pack" to get pregnant and raise their children together. At their school there are 18 girls pregnant. They also had a young lady who had her baby at 13. YES! 13 I was still playing with dolls at 13. I think its our responsibility to educate teens on this issue. For them to be smart about the decisions they make, decisions that can change their lives forever. Obviously the best way to decrease teen pregnancy is ABSTINENCE ...reality how many kids follow this. Thanks to the media and Hollywood they make sex "cool" but do not really focus on the consequences. I think many parents leave it up to the school system to educate their kids on this subject but its not working we all need to be involved in their education. We need to stop being blind and know that these kids will have sex and instead of preaching DONT DO IT we should also be telling them what their options are if they do choose to be sexually active. I feel so strongly about this subject because I saw so many of my friends get pregnant and drop out of school.

n/e if you saw the show i would love to know what you thought about it

Monday, August 4, 2008

Parenting sites

So I would like to share some sites that where shared with me by my
friend and mommy, Cat.I have learned a lot from them and have really
helped me on those days that I struggle or even question my
parenting style.

The first one I really like I try to do as much as I can to practice AP.
Most of the things I already did even before knowing what AP was.
As a mom we sometimes automatically do certain thingsto care for our
young. I think people even my husband looks at me funny when I say I
dont like to hear Mason cry. Even if it means nursing him constantly I
rather have a happy baby than hear him cry. As I was reading some AP
stuff and Dr Sears stuff I became aware that im not the only one. Its our
God given instincts as moms to pick a baby up when he is crying or tell
whether he is hungry or sleepy. Raul sometimes gives me hard time about
it because he feel like I should let him cry for a little bit. My answer is
always No. Dont get me wrong he does cry and there are times where I
get frustrated and have to leave him for I bit while I go and cool off. I
know many think that if you run to your babys cry ALL the time
he will be spoiled and what not well I dont agree with that. When
Mason cries I know he is not crying just for the heck of it or on
purpose. I know he is crying because he NEEDS something. Im sure
as he gets older he will be able to tell that if he cries he gets attention
but I feel like thats when I cant stop running to every cry. Right now he
does not know any better. He does not have the language skills a toddler
would have to he cries. For those who are parents I HIGHLY recommend
this site. I have my days when I tell myself just let him cry he will settle
down, but my heart just cant take that. I have something inside me saying
"go comfort him"

This one is very useful. It has lots of info in one place. I think anything you have questions about you can find here. This has some great info on safe ways to co sleep. YES we co sleep. When Mason first came home we tried getting him to sleep in his play pen but none of us where getting any sleep. He would sleep on it for a little but but was waking up very frequently which was making breast-feeding hard because I was so tired. So after about three weeks I think we moved Mason to our bed. We have been sleeping much better now and on his good nights he will wake up 2x to eat. I learned how to BF on my side and now he nurses while I fall back
asleep. We are much happier now and its something that works for US. One thing I read that reassured me on my decision to co sleep was that we carry our babys for 9 months (7 for me) how can we expect them all of a sudden to sleep by themselves when for the past 9 months they have been falling asleep to our heart beat and our rhythm of breathing.

La Leche League has been a life saver when it comes to BF. I did not have that much of a hard time with it as other women have told me they had. I dont know if its because we got lucky or because I was so determined to BF. I really educated myself on the subject especially since Mason was preemie. I think what helped us out the most is that he never got a bottle. He was tubed fed until he was able to eat at 34 weeks. When he was able to eat he got introduced to the breast first. BF in public is still kinda hard but I manage. Im really not the kind of person that can just flop out my boob for the world to see (if you are like that more power to you). I know people have asked me If i give him a bottle when we are out and wonder how a BF. I have a nursing cover and its nice because even though it cover Mason its design where we can still see each other and have that bond. I also have learned to BF using my sling and wrap...BF hands I plan to breast feed till Mason is ready to stop. I dont see us doing it till he is 5 or something like that i just think thats crazy (again if you do that more power to ya girlfriend). Some people have told me I need to give him water i guess thats what people back in the day use to. I have also been told to supplement because its not enough. I think this is where educating ourselves about BF comes into play. BF gives Mason everything he needs. BF children eat more that formula kids because breast milk digest quicker that formula but its not because your child is not getting enough. I have also been told "when he gets this old give him cereal or food." Again we dont plan to introduce solids till Mason is ready or when he get 6 months or older. When it comes to solids I want to see what Mason wants not what everyone else thinks he needs to be doing. Again he gets everything he need from breast milk, solids before 1 is basically practice not a nutritional supplement to breast milk
So speaking about baby food, I plan to make my own baby food and avoid
premade stuff like "Gerber". This link has recipes on how to make it and
useful info about starting your baby on solids. Even though I enjoy
nursing I am looking forward to when we can start solids. Not because
I dont want to nurse but because I get to be creative in what I will be
"mashing" up. So obviously I dont have much to say about this topic since
we have awhile till we do this.

This is another site I got from Cat. I dont really look at this one much because i cant mostly
find all the info im looking for on the Dr. Sears page but I wanted to go ahead and share it
with yall

I know these are a lot of links to one topic but we LOVE baby wearing!!! So I have a hotsling, a
bjorn and i made my own wrap. If you got to the first link mamatoto there are intructions on
how to make your own wrap.

So this was a lot of info but i hope yall find it useful

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Mason is 12 weeks

So Mason turned 12 weeks on Friday ( technically he is 4 weeks since he was 2 months early). I cant believe it my little guy is growing up. So he is awake more now and has started tracking. He loves to stare at the light and when I change him he looks out at the window. He enjoys taking baths but does start crying ounce I take him out and start changing him. The gray color in his eyes is going away now and he is getting is dark brown eyes. You can now tell he will have some bushy eye brows like daddy. He started giving some smiles its very cute! I have this doggy teddy bear tied to his crib and he can stare at that for a long time maybe he likes the colors. The other day it seemed like he was trying to reach for it. He does not fit into any of his preemie clothes and the NB is starting to get small too. He can now wear some 0-3 month outfits. Most of the time he wear onesies since its so hot here. His face has filled out since he was born and he has some chubby cheeks. We are still co sleeping during the night and that seems to work out best for us. We all get a lot more sleep now. I have been cloth diapering during the day when we r home and thats going good too. I still dont feel confident enough to use them at night or when we go out. Hopefully I can get to that point soon . We are still nursing and im loving it im happy I can provide the best for Mason. The days he wants to nurse a lot it does not bother me anymore and it did help that i can nurse on my side which is where co sleeping has been a life saver. I think thats about it so far